The talebearer moves from person to person revealing what was told in confidence. Often they gain that access through flattery — making people feel special so they open up, then betraying them. The warning is to avoid such people, not merely to avoid becoming one.
Memory phrase: Stay away from gossips.
Talk about it: How can you tell if a friend is truly trustworthy with your secrets?
Prayer: God, help me not gossip and not trust flatterers.