Some people are fire-starters by nature — they cannot resist adding fuel to conflict. The contentious person does not stumble into strife accidentally; they bring the coals and the wood that make it blaze. This is a sin of disposition: cultivating a heart that loves conflict is incompatible with wisdom.
Memory phrase: Do not add fuel to fights.
Talk about it: What does it look like to make a fight bigger instead of smaller?
Prayer: God, make me a peacemaker, not a fire-starter.